From My Heart

Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him and he will make your paths straight. – Proverbs 3:5-6 -NIV

Tips for Accountability Partners- “As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend”- Proverbs 27:17 NLT

Believers can help each other grow spiritually with positive confrontation and encouragement.

God’s word challenges us :“And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds” (Hebrews 10.24).

Necessary ingredients for such an “encounter” include: Christian love, honest sharing, protection of one’s trust, prayer and accountability.

 It is recommended that the “sharpening” encounter be experienced by prayer partners of the same sex. The pair should meet weekly allowing for a minimum of 30 minutes and a maximum of 60 minutes. The time should include:

1) Sharing and praying about one another’s concerns.

2) Sharing insights gained from God’s word in individual daily quiet times.

3) Accountability utilizing the “iron sharpening” questions listed below. The questions can be modified if there are other specific issues either participant would want to address and for which she would want to be held accountable.

 Whatever form the questions take, accountability is the key.

 How many days this week did you have your daily quiet time?

What is God showing you through His Word?

 If married…

Have you encouraged your spouse and specifically sought to meet his needs?

Have you had a date lately, just the two of you?

Are you spending adequate time with your children?

When did you last have a special one-on-one time with them?

 If single…

What are you doing to foster meaningful relationships with members of  both sexes?

What attempts have you made to invest in the life of another past week?

How is your thought life? Are you practicing Phil. 4.8, thinking on that which is true, honest, pure, etc.?

Have all of your thoughts about and interactions with others been pure and honoring to the Lord?

Are you being a good steward of your time and money?

What amount of time are you investing weekly in ministry?

How is your witness in the neighborhood and workplace?

 Every believer has a spiritual area of weakness of life in which sheis most vulnerable to the enemy. Identify your weakness.

How are you doing in that area of spiritual weakness?

What are you doing to make it an area of spiritual strength?

Lastly ask the question:

Have you been totally honest with me in answering my questions?

What if you get a less than satisfactory answer

• Set short term goals to be evaluated the following week.

• Seek scripture references that apply to the problem and/or solution.

• Pray together for God’s help in correcting problems/deficiencies.



  Patti Yampolsky wrote @

I really like the idea of an accountability partner. I have asked different people at different times in my life to partner with me, but they rarely ask any of these questions.
I think this may be time, because we are all so busy we don’t spend enough time together, but couldn’t this be done on the net? Not facebook, but through e-mail? Or are we all so busy we just don’t want to take the time. I need someone to keep me accountable. Any takers?

  Tara Maloy wrote @

Believe it or not, I had almost completely forgotten about the idea of having an accountability partner. I will admit that this past year I have questioned my faith a lot and have strayed away from it more than I have liked. God showed me something today that I desperately needed to hear and even asked him to show me earlier this morning and now i believe it is time to get my walk back on track. This post helped me too and I wanted to thank you for that. You’re amazing Donna

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